When I was dating, I didn’t look for submissive guys. I did my own thing and it attracted like-minded people who shared my interests and wanted to befriend me. Sometimes this platonic love would grow into romantic feelings. As the relationship progressed, we’d explore power exchange if it was appropriate.
I don’t think its a good idea to form a relationship on just power exchange. That seems shallow and destined for disappointment. You should be best friends, share lots of hobbies, inspire each other, AND have wild kinky BDSM sex. In that order.
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Nevertheless, I am propositioned daily by strangers online who want to submit to me. It is very unbecoming and makes me uncomfortable. Perhaps because I’m a demisexual and can’t get into it without first having a romantic connection.